The other day I was going through the spam folder of my email after a long time just to see if I would find something interesting or perhaps important… and surely, there it was, a private message left on my YouTube account. I don’t often check my YouTube notifications and I don’t usually receive emails for them either. At first, this man seemed like the typical brainwashed “Muslim” with his chauvinistic views. It was apparent that he was responding to some comment I had left on a video.
I’ve spoken to men with similar mindsets so this wasn’t exactly anything new. According to him and likeminded individuals; God knows that men “need” sex slaves of sorts in Paradise as a reward for their “good” deeds. Sounds ironic somehow, doesn’t it? They also tend to make it seem like women have little to no sexual desire.
I responded with my usual response, about many women having equal to or higher sexual desire than men so what for them? And hurs (companions) being for both men and women etc.
What shocked me was his next response and it’s the reason I felt compelled to make this post and expose the way the minds of some brainwashed men function.
Did he really say what I think he said? That women not enjoying rape equates to women having low sexual libido/appetite/desire? So does he mean that if women enjoyed rape that would mean they have high sexual desire? Is there even a correlation?! He even goes on to say, “The reason is women don’t have libido.” Is this man for real? If women don’t have libido, does that mean every single woman is being raped when in a relationship? How does this even make any sense? By his logic, if a man does not want to rape, does he have a low libido? The more I question his words, the more I can feel myself becoming dumber. His statements are ridiculously atrocious and nonsensical. He even asks why some men “have” to rape women. To me, he seems like a danger.
And why is he saying all this? Just to tell me that men will receive “hur al ayn” (he thinks these are women) in Jannah because they “need” several sexual partners due to their “high sexual libido”. He is also trying to tell me this because I’m a woman and “women will not receive hurs because they don’t have high libido like men.” I might as well also add the common arguments that are put forward; that Muslim women will be married to their worldly husbands without any choice, rancour will be removed from their hearts so they don’t feel jealous of their husbands sleeping with “hur al ayn” while being given material possessions instead such as jewellery and clothes because “that is what all women want.” Some men will go as far as to say that ‘hurs’ are their motivation to work for Paradise. So, not God’s love, meeting the prophets but… ‘hurs’..
It’s sad that he actually believes that and even that God would use such vulgar words. He (and everyone else who believes those Hadith) seems to believe that God portrayed women as commodities, in that they will just be bundled together and handed to each man. Astaghfirullah. He does not seem to understand the meaning of “companionship”.
Breaking it down into a black and white, misogynistic and simplistic way of some men’s thinking of supposed human ‘nature’:
Women = Want one man all to herself.
Men = Want multiple women.
It goes something like this based on majority male scholarly views:
A Muslim woman will be rewarded with her worldly husband (i.e be stuck with him) and will have the pleasure of sharing him with several other women. Her beauty will be elevated tremendously to be even more pleasurable to her husband! Her jealousy will be taken away so that she can peacefully watch her husband copulate with other women, and as a bonus, she will be made Queen over the “huris” and have the opportunity to command these “huris” to have sexual relations with her husband.”
This seems to be the God’s justice that they believe in. It definitely seems like such men are the jealous ones, doesn’t it? They just cannot fathom the fact that women (including their wives) will also have whatever they desire. That women will be asking God for what they want and men won’t have a single say in it at all. Well, you’ll all have to deal with it. After all, there won’t be jealousy in Jannah, right?
I would like to ease the mind of this man and others by pointing out this definition:
You will find that the Arabic word ‘Hur’ is the plural of both ‘Ahwar’ which is masculine and ‘Hawra’ which is feminine. The word generally signifies the intense whiteness of the white of the eye and intense blackness of the pupils.
“The Qur’an describes in several verses that you will have have “azwaj” in Paradise which means a pair/spouse/companion. Companions pure and holy (mutaharratun means pure, holy).”
Qur’an – 2:25 “But give glad tidings to those who believe and work righteousness, that their portion is gardens, beneath which rivers flow. Every time they are fed with fruits therefrom, they say: “Why, this is what we were fed with before”, for they are given things in similitude; and they have therein companions pure; and they abide therein (forever)”. [Al-Qur’an 2:25]
Qur’an – 4:57 “But those who believe and do deeds of righteousness, We shall soon admit to Gardens, with rivers flowing beneath – their eternal home; therein shall they have companions pure and holy: we shall admit them to shades, cool and ever deepening”.
“Therefore the word hoor has no specific gender. Mohammad Asad has translated the word hoor as spouse and Abdullah Yusuf Ali as companion. Therefore according to some scholars a man in paradise will have a hoor that is a beautiful maiden with beautiful big and lustrous eyes and a woman in paradise will get a man with beautiful big and lustrous eyes.” This is how Dr Zakir Naik described it as well.
A more literal translation: hur = beautiful, al ayn = eyes.
In Surah Rahman chapter 55 verse 72
“Companions reserved, in goodly pavilions.”
According to many men this verse is about females who will only look at their “new worldly husbands” because characteristics of being reserved and modest are feminine traits. Do these men therefore also believe the Prophets were immodest men if modesty is only a “feminine” trait?
How can so-called Muslim scholars and men preach that “pure companions” equates to sex slaves? It’s common to see misleading words added in brackets in translations of the Qur’an. Next to hur, you might find “fair maiden”. And you know what many idiots take that as? White skinned women, yes you read that right. I even read comments by a man on this issue saying things akin to “If there is a white woman and a black one, it’s normal to be attracted to the white one.” It’s truly horrific. These men don’t seem to be only misogynistic and chauvinistic but racist also.
Scholars definitely have had a hand in brainwashing people too. It’s quite sad to see that even many Muslim women have accepted certain things to be part of Islam without doing any research or using their brains. Some have put a stone on their hearts and taken inequality as their ‘fate’ or ‘God’s decision’. Their belief in God needs to be stronger. Not an atom’s weight worth of injustice will be done to anyone. According to God, we will have whatever we want. ‘We’ includes women.
Qur’an – 25:16 “For them therein is whatever they wish, abiding eternally. It is ever upon your Lord a promise requested.”
Qur’an – 50:35 “There will be for them therein all that they wish, – and more besides in Our Presence.”
Qur’an – 39:34 “They will have whatever they desire with their Lord. That is the reward of the doers of good –“
(See also, 16:31, 21:102, 36:57, 43:71)
It’s unfortunate that the beautiful reward of Heaven for us undeserving humans has become a positive, no-questions-asked topic of discussion for men while many women have to question and understand why it supposedly isn’t the same for them.
Dear Muslim men, stop being like this:
And try to be humble, loving and useful. Not chauvinistic nuisances. Stop portraying Islam in a bad light.
Just to be clear, I’m not pointing my finger at all Muslim men. Not at all. There are those who believe in equality and are not sex maniacs, but are modest and understanding, those who speak with reason.
Just for some kind information, here’s a page with hadith that all Muslims should read! –> Click.
Thanks for reading.
May Allah SWT guide and bless us.